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Monday, May 17, 2010
Plus, a southerner tries to break her breakfast, dinner and supper habit.
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Each week, Miss Manners answers questions exclusively from the MSN audience on all of your etiquette dilemmas. (Have an issue you want help with?Send in a question todayor talk about your own problems on ourMiss Manners message board.) Read on for the latest hot topics:
Dear Miss Manners,
I have been a client of the same hairdresser for many years (my mother-in-law is also a client of hers). She is an older woman; I like her very much and we have enjoyed a friendly, but not intimate, relationship. The salon where she is employed raised their rates twice last year, and, at the time, I expressed my concern about the continuing affordability of my appointments with her.
Recently, I met a woman with hair similar to mine, and with a cut I liked better than the one I had, and asked her for the name of her hairdresser. My hairdresser was on vacation, so I decided to try the other woman's hairdresser, and I much preferred the cut she gave me. Moreover, her salon is located closer to my home, the staff is friendlier and the cut cost less than I have been paying.
I would like to change hairdressers, but feel I owe my previous one an explanation. I am not sure how to handle
this. Should I make an appointment? Drop into see her? Take her some flowers or chocolates? Please tell me what would be the appropriate way to handle the situation, and what I should tell my former hairdresser.
Gentle Reader,
Loyalty is a wonderful quality, but Miss Manners notices that ladies seem to put more emotion into the decision to leave a hairdresser than to leave a husband.
In the business world, clients come and go for many reasons. If you want to thank your former hairdresser for her service, simply do so—and please without reference to your preference for another's work. A tip would be a better present than flowers or chocolates. You don't want everyone to ask, "What's the occasion?" when the answer would have to be "I lost a client."
Dear Miss Manners,
I am a middle aged woman brought up in a southern rural home by older parents. That said, we had breakfast, dinner and supper. I am now in the "city" where it is breakfast, lunch and dinner. I have worked long and hard to relearn my meals, but old ways are hard to change.
Usually I am among polite people who understand what meal I refer to, but on occasion I have the person who either does care to take the time to think or otherwise feel they must question my use of dinner as a midday meal. My usual response is "Forgive me, I am an old country person at heart and I meant lunch." Am I being so far behind in the times and is there a better response to such questions or statements?
Gentle Reader,
You have surely added the one thing that would make your response even more charming—a southern accent.
More from Miss Manners
Previous column: Who pays for the wedding?
Noisy neighbors? Nosy in-laws? Great advice for your own dilemmas on the Miss Manners message board
More etiquette questions answered
Books by Miss Manners
Each week, Miss Manners answers questions exclusively from the MSN audience on all of your etiquette dilemmas. (Have an issue you want help with?Send in a question todayor talk about your own problems on ourMiss Manners message board.) Read on for the latest hot topics:
Dear Miss Manners,
I have been a client of the same hairdresser for many years (my mother-in-law is also a client of hers). She is an older woman; I like her very much and we have enjoyed a friendly, but not intimate, relationship. The salon where she is employed raised their rates twice last year, and, at the time, I expressed my concern about the continuing affordability of my appointments with her.
Recently, I met a woman with hair similar to mine, and with a cut I liked better than the one I had, and asked her for the name of her hairdresser. My hairdresser was on vacation, so I decided to try the other woman's hairdresser, and I much preferred the cut she gave me. Moreover, her salon is located closer to my home, the staff is friendlier and the cut cost less than I have been paying.
I would like to change hairdressers, but feel I owe my previous one an explanation. I am not sure how to handle
this. Should I make an appointment? Drop into see her? Take her some flowers or chocolates? Please tell me what would be the appropriate way to handle the situation, and what I should tell my former hairdresser.Gentle Reader,
Loyalty is a wonderful quality, but Miss Manners notices that ladies seem to put more emotion into the decision to leave a hairdresser than to leave a husband.
In the business world, clients come and go for many reasons. If you want to thank your former hairdresser for her service, simply do so—and please without reference to your preference for another's work. A tip would be a better present than flowers or chocolates. You don't want everyone to ask, "What's the occasion?" when the answer would have to be "I lost a client."
Dear Miss Manners,
I am a middle aged woman brought up in a southern rural home by older parents. That said, we had breakfast, dinner and supper. I am now in the "city" where it is breakfast, lunch and dinner. I have worked long and hard to relearn my meals, but old ways are hard to change.
Usually I am among polite people who understand what meal I refer to, but on occasion I have the person who either does care to take the time to think or otherwise feel they must question my use of dinner as a midday meal. My usual response is "Forgive me, I am an old country person at heart and I meant lunch." Am I being so far behind in the times and is there a better response to such questions or statements?
Gentle Reader,
You have surely added the one thing that would make your response even more charming—a southern accent.
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